Monday, February 14, 2011

Happy Day!

Today is Valentines Day.

But I seriously do not believe in today. I'm sorry. But I believe that one day is not enough to show just how much you love someone. You should show and tell them EVERY DAY! It is nothing more than jewelry, roses, and chocolate stores pressuring you into a guilt trip, saying that "you don't love your woman if you don't get her roses and diamonds". It disgusts me, actually, worse than the commercialization of Christmas and Easter.

Why? Why do we have Valentines Day? What purpose does it serve but to lay guilt or torture those without?

I love learning.Education leads to enlightenment which leads to empowerment. It seems that the history of this day is shrouded in mystery. Even the Catholic Church cannot agree on the actual person that is St. Valentine.
Today, the Catholic Church recognizes at least three different saints named Valentine or Valentinus, all of whom were martyred.
And some believe that this holiday was nothing more then the Catholic Church assimilating pagan rituals in order to win converts.
Lupercalia, which began at the ides of February, February 15, was a fertility festival dedicated to Faunus, the Roman god of agriculture, as well as to the Roman founders Romulus and Remus.

Check out History.Com for more information.

Whatever the reasons are for this day, it has mutated into guilt and torture and I really do not like it. I celebrate my love for my husband every day we are married. It has been a little over 21 years now and every day with him is Valentine's day!   Although my favorite flower is the Rose, he knows he has no need to get me flowers. He knows I hate the dying ones (cut flowers are just dying flowers). If he ever does get me flowers, he gets me roses I can plant in the ground -- LIVE roses. And he doesn't buy them on the 500% markup days before Valentines Day. It's the little things he does throughout the year that I cherish. Not the obligatory roses, card, and chocolate day of Valentines Day.

This is what I believe and thought I would share some information with you and a little insight into my person.


  1. Hi LadyJai - I have to agree with you about Valentines Day! I just found your blog on the Writers Platform Building Crusade list, and I was so happy to see another picture book writer! I am now following your blog, and hope you might have a chance to pop over and see mine :) Nice to "meet" you! Susanna

  2. Agreed, Jai! I really have very little use for Valentine's Day. I want to make sure my husband knows I love him everyday!!